Ep. 43 ‘I want to show reality’

This is a piece of autobiographical fiction. Space and time have been rearranged to suit the convenience of the book, and with the exception of public figures, any resemblance to persons living or dead is coincidental. The opinions expressed are those of the characters and should not be confused with the author’s.

This story is written as an example to anyone who wants to believe that we are more than the patriarchy deems us to be, more than our limitations, and more than our fears.

17th October, 2020 Croatia

I’m talking to a friend from back home in Singapore, she’s just told me that she’s pregnant and giving birth to a baby boy next year

“I’m so happy for you!!! And so excited. You’re going to be a great mother and Amos is going to be such an amazing father.” I tell them.

“Babe, I actually wanted to ask you….what happened? Why didn’t you come back in February like you planned to??

“I couldn’t babe. I just had too many things going on in my head. Besides, the divorce happened for a reason. And I needed to find out why.” I share with her.

“To be honest, I was a little upset that you didn’t tell me about the separation. I thought we were considered close friends but then I had to hear it from someone else. That’s why I haven’t reached out to you in so long.” She confesses.

“Oh………I see. I didn’t mean to make you feel that way. I’m sorry. Even my own family doesn’t really know what happened.” I don’t know why I apologized but I did.

“It’s okay lah, as long as you’re happy now.”

I asked myself this – am I happy already? Is that all that people cared about? The beginning and the end? Shouldn’t they also care about all of the in-betweens?

It got me thinking – why is it that as a society, we’re so ready to celebrate life and the wins, but so quick to avoid talking about the difficult things?

If we don’t talk about difficult things, if we don’t initiate conversations about them, if we don’t bring up topics in public – WHEN will we be able to foster good communication with each other AS A SOCIETY?

When will we be able to help those in need in terms of providing professional help?

How are people suppose to know that they’re not alone? If all they see on social media all day long is happy people doing happy things?

I don’t want to show them a facade.

I want to show them reality.

From the movie ‘Into The Wild’ – Instead of Love, Show me TRUTH.

One thought on “Ep. 43 ‘I want to show reality’

  1. I think in Singapore, we are conditioned to move at such a fast pace, we want quick results, quick resolutions, fast food, fast in fast out, need to drive above speed limit to get from Tuas to Changi fast fast.

    So we just wanna know the end, the conclusion, the solution. We never really take the time to pause, analyse in between or the journey one takes to get to the destination.

    It’s like how I don’t really care how Man Utd played last night, I’m just interested in the score. Did we win or did we lose. If we won, yay, go watch the replay and goals, then move on with my life. If we lost, then just move on with my life anyway.

    Need to slow down be more deliberate about walking and journeying together throughout the process. With a person of course, not a football club.


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